Meeting Your Emotional Edge In Meditation and Healing Repressed Emotions

I want to explore the healing aspect of meditation with you.

I feel that this isn’t given enough space.

The meditation experiences are vast and it’s a long journey.

The journey often begins with facing some of our repressed emotions.

Healing means sitting with the repressed emotions that have been pushed down for years and stuck in the body and generally are in pockets of trapped tension.

Often it’s the case that when you finally reach a state of deep relaxation (such as in meditation) stuck emotions feel ‘safe’ enough to start to unravel and surface.

I think we need to have SO many more open conversations around meditation and healing. 

When we start meditating there’s often a LOT of stuff to come up - most of us have never been able to relax that deep before.

There can be a lot of ‘stuff’ to clear.

Our “pop-psychology’ version of meditation where we follow a voice for 5-10min means that I feel we’re often missing the depth and richness of what a meditation practice can really do for us.

5-10min of meditation is a bandaid to get through the day without having a complete meltdown - and that’s great!

But deeper work is slow, takes time, takes patience.

Maybe not everyone has that, or maybe it’s just not prioritised.

Or maybe because there is pain that we are trying to avoid.

One definition of healing is being able to hold pain. But we need to have the CAPACITY to hold pain.

We need to have the capacity to be present with ourselves, in the way that we often weren’t held in our entirety as a child. 

This is all a process.

When we feel held in our pain this is where the alchemy and healing happens. 

That part of us that we’ve repressed, pushed away or tried to cut off is seen and loved and comes back to us - this is healing - to feel whole.

So if you don’t have that capacity you probably won’t engage in deeper practices, even though they can help you.

The opposite of this is the Vipassana style equanimity where we stand stone cold to any feelings and numb them with “presence”. True presence to me is to hold and be with whatever is arising in the moment letting it pass through. It’s this element of our Presence being able to hold whatever is coming up, rather than letting the emotion take over and hold us.

Whatever the resistance we way meet in life or meditation for sure it’s a universal law that on the other side of that is LOVE. Real love, unconditional love, spirutal love. 

This is why I offer Spiritual Mentoring - to create a bespoke support to help people move through blocks that are creating barriers to meditation (relationship with deepest self) the relationship with themselves in life, and the relationships with others and their work.

It’s all so deeply connected. 

And the most beautiful melancholic part of it all is we all have the same core wounding - we are all feeling empty at some level, feeling unworthy of profound love and that is why we are walking each other home.